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    Holiday Party Help

    Hey all

    Holiday party season is here. Iíve got two in the same week so could use some help.

    First is in Tulsa for our company party. Most donít dress up (Ties are asking a lot) but our President (who I know pretty well) is wearing a tux. I have a nice one from SuSu so I was going to wear that.

    Wondering if I should spice up a normal tux with either a holiday bow tie (like velvet texture or even design) to bring down the formality add some fun a slight bit or if that is too much?

    For the second party itís cocktail attire at DC wine bar. I was going to wear my purple velvet sport coat. What tie color or style should I look for? Iíve worn it before with a simple black tie but donít know if I should try something new.

    Thanks in advance.

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    My opinion about the company party is that if the company President is the only one wearing a tux and then you wear one as well, it's possible you could engender bad feelings from both the President and your co-workers. The President might think you're an upstart and stealing his limelight. Your coworkers might think you're trying to show them up.

    Given that possibility, I'd suggest you stay away from the tux. Unless you know others will be wearing one as well. Or maybe if you mention it to the President and he seems to think it's a good idea.

    That said, when I've worn a tux to holiday parties, I've gone with a touch of whimsy for neck wear. I will admit that one year I even did one of these, though many of you might gasp.

    https://www.amazon.com/YanLen-Pack-F.../dp/B0793M4DR6

    By the way, I wasn't the only one at that party wearing something like that. We both got complimented a lot.


    Good question on the purple dinner jacket. Are you wearing a white shirt or another color? I would stick with black. Maybe a complimentary shade of purple (but not an exact match), navy, or royal blue?

    If you're wearing a shirt other than white, that is a different question.
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    I would just suit up nicely. The reason I say this is that you do not know how formal the President's tux is. I went to a black-tie optional wedding recently and the only ones in tuxes were the groomsmen. My tux was more on the formal side which would have somewhat outshined the bridal party which you shouldn't do.

    As for other party, have fun with it!

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    Thanks @mebejoseph I donít know if he will be the only one. Iíll need to figure that out I guess. It just wonít be the majority.

    Majority of my coworkers in my area of the company are females so no tux show up issues haha jk. I just have the impression that most just hate dressing up. But itís a fancy hotel for the venue. Iíll get more info.

    For the purple jacket my assumption was white shirt but open to all input.

    @JBarwick I assume itís the one he wore to our tech center opening a month or so ago. Traditional black tux.

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    There's some ego massage to consider here. If the CEO's own employees don't dress up or hate to, yet he's going to be in a tux, that right there is a power statement. He's not-so-subtly requesting the spotlight. I say let him have it...the spotlight, that is. As others have suggested, let your accessories be your statement. Whether it's a nice pocket square, cuff links, a more boldly patterned shirt or whatever, let that set you apart. I can almost guarantee that those choices will still garner positive comments about your attire without having to worry about upstaging the boss.

    As an aside, and I mean this in good spirits, what I think I hear you saying is, "I have a bada$$ tux that I never get to wear and I really want to wear it."

    Same opinion on the purple jacket - let that be the statement and let everything else complement it. White shirt, black tie, purple jacket and, perhaps the best accessory, the co-jones to pull it off with confidence.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MediumTex View Post
    There's some ego massage to consider here. If the CEO's own employees don't dress up or hate to, yet he's going to be in a tux, that right there is a power statement. He's not-so-subtly requesting the spotlight. I say let him have it...the spotlight, that is. As others have suggested, let your accessories be your statement. Whether it's a nice pocket square, cuff links, a more boldly patterned shirt or whatever, let that set you apart. I can almost guarantee that those choices will still garner positive comments about your attire without having to worry about upstaging the boss.

    As an aside, and I mean this in good spirits, what I think I hear you saying is, "I have a bada$$ tux that I never get to wear and I really want to wear it."

    Same opinion on the purple jacket - let that be the statement and let everything else complement it. White shirt, black tie, purple jacket and, perhaps the best accessory, the co-jones to pull it off with confidence.
    No offense taken. That was my mindset. I have a tux and thought it might be an event to wear it

    My old company was a black tie event and since Iíve left that company it doesnít get use. The DC focused party is cocktail attire. The home base party I heard he wore a tux so got excited haha

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    I agree on the tux...unless your boss is for sure encouraging others to wear black tie it could be his statement and having someone else make that statement (potentially even better than he does) could maybe cause some ill will. What do you think others will be wearing to that party? Will the women be in cocktail dresses or more casual than that? If people don't tend to dress up at your workplace, this could be an opportunity to wear a favorite suit you never get to wear anymore...or a sport coat if even a suit seems too much...or maybe invert things and wear the velvet jacket to the work party and the tux for the DC party?

    I live in DC, and while a tux is not "cocktail attire" you can certainly drink a cocktail while wearing one, and DC is a pretty formal city. The upscale cocktail bars there...lots of people show up wearing really nice suits. In fact, that's the norm rather than the exception. Spotting a tux in such a place would be slightly unconventional but not in any way beyond the pale. It sounds like since it's your ex workplace you don't have to worry about whether you upstage anyone, and if someone asks why the tux use the Jack Donaghy from line from 30 Rock: "because it's after 6. What am I a farmer?" In that situation, since you're going more formal than required some whimsical accessories would be fine. Or just go super classic full black tie and be the most sophisticated guy there.
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    Asked around. Sounds like a few others are wearing tuxes in Tulsa. It wouldnít just be the majority.

    To clarify. My old work was black tie thus I have a nice tux. At my current place itís new to me. I used to be just project based focusing on my DC project. People wore very casual to the holiday party. A tux there would not work.

    Now I work for corporate (Tulsa) so I attend both parties.

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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeysc23 View Post
    Asked around. Sounds like a few others are wearing tuxes in Tulsa. It wouldn’t just be the majority.
    Great! Go for it, then! And I do like to add some holiday-themed accessories. I've also worn a red cummerbund and matching tie. Also, silver vest and matching tie. It's the holidays--have fun with it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by hockeysc23 View Post
    Hey all

    Holiday party season is here. Iíve got two in the same week so could use some help.

    First is in Tulsa for our company party. Most donít dress up (Ties are asking a lot) but our President (who I know pretty well) is wearing a tux. I have a nice one from SuSu so I was going to wear that.

    Wondering if I should spice up a normal tux with either a holiday bow tie (like velvet texture or even design) to bring down the formality add some fun a slight bit or if that is too much?

    For the second party itís cocktail attire at DC wine bar. I was going to wear my purple velvet sport coat. What tie color or style should I look for? Iíve worn it before with a simple black tie but donít know if I should try something new.

    Thanks in advance.
    Which wine bar? I know a horse might could crash.

    I have a shload of bow ties, some hawaiian-type floral pattern, a red one with jolly rogers, and a little of everything in between. I'd be happy to toss one your way if you wanna borrow.

    Do you have a tie in black watch plaid (neck or bow)? That would be great with the purple velvet.
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