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  • Ccoleman99
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    I was where you are six months ago. I started rebuilding from the ground up: quality socks, boxers, and V neck Tshirts.

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  • LosRockets
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    Welcome! Dappered has a great community and we're glad to have you be a part of it.

    Agree w/ everything Bruschetta has said about TM Levin vs. CT. I've only tried on TM shirts at a local consignment store, but they felt decidedly worse than my CT shirts. Must also say that calling CT and hearing a live human (with British accent!) pick up immediately is an awesome feeling.

    The list is also good advice - I keep such a list and what I often do is everytime I add something to this list, I hold off on buying it for a few weeks. I need to forget about wanting it and then go back and think - now in the past 3 -4 weeks, would I have worn that item at all? Why did I want it? Was it a perceived need because of #menswear, or is it an actual need? That process has saved me a lot of money and helped me hone in on what I would use the most.

    NC and a few others have posted this in the forums, but it bears repeating: Too often we get caught up in this idea of quality and "this will last a lifetime, get it now." And while it's true that men's style is a lot more stable than women's, it's okay to buy one or two pieces at a time - slowly - and build up your collection as you develop your own sense of style and confidence in your new appearance. While you're experimenting, you don't need to go out an buy an expensive cardigan, a cheap one from H&M will do just fine until you know whether or not you and your wife like how you look in cardigans. It's okay to spend less - chances are, as long as it fits people will think it costs much more than you paid for it. The internet is paradoxically both a very large and also a very small place, and menswear sites can make you feel like everybody is going to notice everything. They don't

    I'd say to save the money for an extra pair of pants/dress shirt and put them towards tailoring if you can; it's worth it. Also, when in stores, always try a size smaller than you expect. You may be pleasantly surprised, or at the very worst it'll fit terribly and you'll learn more about what's a good look and fit for you. I agree that a 42R sounds off for you, get measured at a tailor when you take some shirts in.

    Bottom line: find a style and clothing that fits you and your budget. Post those shirts when you can (along w/ a fit pic of one if you don't mind) and we can help suggest which ones may be worth salvaging at the tailor and how to shop differently!

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  • eli cash
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    I wouldn't tailor your billowy shirts unless they are of high quality. You can get new slim shirts for only a little more than what it would cost to tailor.

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  • bruschetta
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    shad0w4life, I dislike TM Lewin as a brand. I ordered a few different things from them recently (cold weather clothing such as sweaters, vests, etc.) and I returned everything. The quality was too low for my standard. For some comparison, both Charles Tyrwhitt and Uniqlo were better quality. TM Lewin also took nearly 3 weeks to process my return, whereas Charles Tyrwhitt's customer support is exceptional. Another thing to consider: the collars on TM Lewin shirts look off to me. You may have the same impression.

    FraserCA, I would start by creating a list of the items that you absolutely want in your wardrobe. For example:

    2 Charcoal flannel pants.
    3 sport coats of various styles.
    1 navy blazer.
    2 suits.
    4 solid colour dress shirts.
    2 patterned dress shirts.
    etc.

    This process will help you see what you have and what you still want.

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  • andrew4h
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    @shad0w4life, Ordered TM Lewin a year ago after having mostly been a CT guy for 4 years. While they are certainly fine and nice shirts, I do think the quality in the CT shirts were better. My only problem with CT is that the tailored size still leaves a decent bit of billowing, whereas TM Lewin's fully fitted is near perfect in the body.

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  • shad0w4life
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    I just ordered 8 shirts from TM lewin using the %20 off code.

    Ordered more so staple solids to have them handy(a few non irons for backup) for around $240 shipped and that was the 4 for 100 not the 5 for 100 special that was on. majority were the fully fitted style and some were slim. I will post after, as a few people said TM lewin sucked vs CT and others said they were just as good if not better. For $30 a shirt I couldn't resist (would have been even less if i got the 10 hah)

    it ends on the 25th I believe so if you need shirts I'd suggest taking advantage, get your measurements too if you don't know them and use size chart.

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  • alan
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    Originally posted by jputman08 View Post
    I don't think you need to worry much about ties. You should diversify the material eventually, but I'm not sure that should be your priority right out of the box. Get rid of worn out items first. Pull out your dress shirts and figure out which ones fit and which ones don't. Donate the stuff that doesn't fit. Same for your trousers, your blazers and suits. Systematically remove the poor fitting items. Then you can truly fill the holes and re-build your wardrobe with classic, well fitting pieces. At least that is what I would recommend.
    For anything that doesn't fit well, determine if its cheaper to tailor it or to replace it before you toss it out. If its worn out, letting it go may be the best choice.

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  • FraserCA
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    Originally posted by KC View Post
    Wait...why are you getting rid of those ties on the right? I sort of like that purple one with the white dots. Regarding ties, it looks like you're pretty well set on the more formal ties/ones you can wear with button up shirts. Have you considered knit or wool ties to add a bit of texture in your more casual getups? Not everyone is a fan of those, but I like the look and it could help you branch out, especially if you plan on expanding your wardrobe past professional.
    Well, the ones on the right never get worn and some of them aren't in great shape anymore. If you're referring to the one that is second from the left in the set on the right, it's not purple and they aren't exactly polkadots. It's a dark reddish color with a little geometric design.

    I confess that I may have purchased a couple of shirt and tie combinations before...the kind that come in a clear box together

    I will do a shirt rundown shortly--that part of my wardrobe is in much worse shape.

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  • jputman08
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    I don't think you need to worry much about ties. You should diversify the material eventually, but I'm not sure that should be your priority right out of the box. Get rid of worn out items first. Pull out your dress shirts and figure out which ones fit and which ones don't. Donate the stuff that doesn't fit. Same for your trousers, your blazers and suits. Systematically remove the poor fitting items. Then you can truly fill the holes and re-build your wardrobe with classic, well fitting pieces. At least that is what I would recommend.

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  • KC
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    Wait...why are you getting rid of those ties on the right? I sort of like that purple one with the white dots. Regarding ties, it looks like you're pretty well set on the more formal ties/ones you can wear with button up shirts. Have you considered knit or wool ties to add a bit of texture in your more casual getups? Not everyone is a fan of those, but I like the look and it could help you branch out, especially if you plan on expanding your wardrobe past professional.

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  • FraserCA
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    Thanks to all for the helpful insights. I have a lot to read and consider. Not knowing where else to start, I thought I'd address the tie situation. I whittled it down to twenty. Getting rid of the ones on the right, keeping the set on the left. I do have solid black, navy, and grey--which seem to be part of the essentials mentioned in a lot of the material referenced. Anything else glaringly missing in the tie arena?

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  • shad0w4life
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    This is kind of a ted style outfit(sans tie) and I want to replicate it....stupid jcrew not putting my tall merino on sale. But he does a bit more brown and blues for the sweater.



    And Ted of course
    Last edited by shad0w4life; November 22, 2012, 12:33 PM.

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  • KC
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    One of us...one of us...

    Welcome! Make sure you definitely check out those full wardrobe/rebuilding articles posted earlier - they are very helpful tools in figuring out where you want to go. Even if you don't buy everything in the $1500 wardrobe guide, it will give you a good sense of where to start, and what to get now.

    As far as brands, when I first started revamping my wardrobe myself a couple years ago I found myself buying a lot of Lands End Canvas, Gap, J Crew factory, Uniqlo and Tie Bar. Even to this day, I've gravitated around J Crew because of their promo deals and fit. Once you find something that fits you well "off the rack", you'll naturally gravitate towards them for future purchases. You do have to watch out for some brands that have a tendency to differentiate their sizes within their own brand, where a S in one shirt fits more like a M. If you're like me you'll likely experiment with other brands early on and learn from them. I bought some Banana Republic stuff when I first started, but realized I didn't like the way their shirts/sweaters fit me. I've found that Dockers Alpha Khakis fit me really well, and ended up buying it in all available colors at the time.

    Having only seen a few episodes of HIMYM, I think Ted's style focuses a lot on dark wash jeans, v-neck sweaters, plain t-shirts and blazers. I'd say focus on getting some solid foundation on those pieces (again, read those articles!) and when you (and your wallet) feel comfortable you can branch out a little bit into brighter/funkier colors and patterns if you see fit.

    Dappered has always been my home when I first started out, and still remains a great place for info and frequent updates. Also the members of this board are incredibly helpful for answering whatever questions you may have and offering suggestions. Even if you're just a lurker, you will learn a lot.

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  • george
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    Good luck! And good on you for bringing a bit of style to the world of academia!

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  • MattRicketts
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    I don't have anything to add to what's already been said, but just want to say that you're in good company here. Like you I'm in my 30s with a wife and family and have just recently become interested in dressing better, and also have a bit of pudge around the waist. ;-) The guys on here are super-nice and helpful to noobs like us without being condescending or snobby (unlike other menswear forums, so I'm told). Welcome!

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