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    Hi all,

    We've got our first little one (boy) coming in February. When searching through all the baby registries etc. it can be a bit overwhelming.

    1. What items/things (outside the obvious aka crib) would you definitely recommend? Any specific brands?

    2. Any recommendations for a more manly diaper/change bag? My wife said I can pick it and I'd prefer something a little more dapper and functional than the very feminine one my brother's wife got.

    #2
    Congrats! We had our first (girl) late last year. Best year of my life.

    I can’t recommend the Dock-A-Tot enough. Worth every penny. We didn’t have any sleep issues until teething started thanks to this thing.

    We also ended up getting the Owlet sock after about a month. As first time parents, it took most of the worry out of long stretches of sleep and sleeping through the night for us. Expensive but we don’t regret the purchase.

    Cannot help you with the bag, however. 2 girls against me so I never had a chance.

    Enjoy it all!

    Edit to add: shell out for multiple Boppy pillows. I think we ended up with 3 -- they are amazing for feeding, playing, sitting, napping, whatever. My daughter is almost 1 and we still use these daily.

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    Last edited by dangerpenguin; November 13, 2018, 10:24 AM.

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      #3
      Our pack-n-play had a changing type thing so we used that on boy 1 but boy 2 we just changed on the floor. The only dedicated baby furniture we bought were cribs from Ikea but paid up for mattresses. My SIL and BIL are both Dr.'s and never bought a sleep type heart monitor but we both bought Nest Camera's so we can track the babies from an app which we can transition to other areas of the house once they grow up. Also we have other Nest products so one app for everything is helpful. We also just bought radio receiver monitors instead of the video monitors as mentioned above. We have tried multiples and it is hit or miss. They break quickly so returns are helpful within the first 30 days.

      While all babies are different, a Rock n Play is worth picking up. Fisher-Price has a ton but it helps when the baby is congested and needs to sleep as they will sleep at an angle and it also is just easier to move around the house than a pack n play or whatever.

      A Fisher-Price Sit-me-up was also helpful. It seemed to offer a longer life than other sit up products but YMMV as there are other popular brands out there.

      Strollers...we have 4. Travel a lot? Mountain Buggy Nano packs up small but has hard plastic wheels so isn't great for bumpier regular walks. Something with rubber inflatable tires is best there. Bob is a popular brand but we went cheap on other strollers. Bob's are light but we joke ours adds weight training while we walk around the neighborhood. We have an umbrella stroller but have NEVER used it.

      Also, we have an outdoors backpack and a Baby Bijorn. Ergobaby is another popular brand. Pick whichever one you like here. Kid 1 used it a lot more than kid 2.

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        #4
        Beco Gemini https://becobabycarrier.com/ I think it's way more comfortable than the other carrier options. You can do front facing, rear facing, backpack. They have other models with mesh if you live in a hot area.

        Velcro swaddles makes getting the baby swaddled much faster and easier when you're dead tired and the baby is playing escape artist https://www.amazon.com/SwaddleMe-Ori...p_pl_dp_4&th=1

        You definitely want a bag, not a backpack, because a bag is much easier to get into quickly. There are a million options, just pick one that looks good.

        When they get a little older and you can't swaddle anymore get some sleep sacks. There are a lot of different options so get some light ones for when it's hot and some thick ones for when it's cold.

        There will come a time when you just can't anymore. For that I recommend strapping your little monster into a swing with music and spinning toys. Leave the room, get a cup of coffee, and come back when you're ready to parent again. I don't know any parents that haven't thrown their hands up in frustration at some point. Go in with your eyes open that what you are doing is hard, but also one of the most rewarding things you can do in your life.

        https://www.amazon.com/Fisher-Price-...3&sr=1-14&th=1

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          #5
          We didn't use our swing much but some people swear by them. Maybe it is rock n play vs. swing?

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            #6
            congratulations!

            i'd add searching for local facebook groups for support. i'm a member of my town's dad's group, my wife is part of several, and they are HUGELY important places for recommendations and advice. we've found products, doctors, specialists etc all from facebook groups.

            our little guys needed swings, which are easily available second hand. nobody uses them for long.

            baby rocker for when they're very young. https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/pro...rd=baby-rocker

            +1 on boppys and the breast friend (worst name). https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/pro...=breast-friend

            a nursing stool if mom is short

            we've gone through a few bag options. before they're on solid food you don't need much besides a change of clothes, diapers, wipes. i couldn't find the specific link but many of the backpack styled options fully open without zippers. you'll have to check them out in store to really narrow it down.

            you probably also don't want a huge stroller from the jump. this one we used and loved. my wife is 5'3 and we needed something lightweight and portable to fit in our prius. we used this one for over a year with each of our little guys. our frenchie used to ride in the bottom.
            https://www.buybuybaby.com/store/pro...y-fit-stroller

            aden and anais makes great bibs and blankets

            the tula baby carrier is great. we have several, including the moby and baby bjorn. we're both short so the bjorn didn't work as well for us.

            final piece of advice: doula. i didn't know or understand it but my wife wanted to and i of course said yes. it was the best birth decision we made. think of them as coach, lactation specialist, advocate and care provider.

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              #7
              Thanks all for the advice and links. I am still plowing through it all but it is appreciated.

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                #8
                Plus one for the car seat stroller. Being able to transition from the stroller to the car and back with waking the sleeping child is a MUST.


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                  #9
                  Originally posted by Doug Chalkey View Post

                  aden and anais makes great bibs and blankets

                  the tula baby carrier is great. we have several, including the moby and baby bjorn. we're both short so the bjorn didn't work as well for us.

                  final piece of advice: doula. i didn't know or understand it but my wife wanted to and i of course said yes. it was the best birth decision we made. think of them as coach, lactation specialist, advocate and care provider.
                  Second Aden and Anais

                  Second the doula with caveat. I have two kids and had two different doulas. The first doula wasn't great, the second was amazing. Interview, look for recommendations, and don't be afraid to tell someone that they're just not the right fit for you if you're not feeling it for any reason.

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                    #10
                    New dad here as well. Our daughter is 9 months (born in Feb) and some of our favorites:
                    Definitely spring for the good stroller. We use ours all the time and have not regretted it once. We got the Uppababy Cruz but got it used for around $200. We also got the adapter to use the stroller with the chicco carseat which was a great idea as this was our primary setup to start.

                    My wife has gotten really into babywearing and it is a great way to bond. We have 3 tulas and they are very comfortable. She also has a few ring slings and we have a lillebaby for facing out.

                    Agree with the recommendation on the dock-a-tot. It definitely helped with sleep in conjunction with the happiest baby swaddle. By far the best sleep swaddle we tried.

                    Bags can be tricky. We both got our own and I started with an ergobaby bag but didn't like it. I moved on to a timbuk2 messenger bag I had and that worked a lot better and just ordered a personalized bag from reload bags here in philly for christmas.

                    I've learned that you will never know what questions to ask until it's time to be a dad, so if any questions come up feel free to reach out. It's definitely been the most exciting thing i've ever done.
                    Last edited by kurn; November 27, 2018, 09:09 AM.

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                      #11
                      Originally posted by kurn View Post
                      New dad here as well. Our daughter is 9 months (born in Feb) and some of our favorites:
                      Definitely spring for the good stroller. We use ours all the time and have not regretted it once. We got the Uppababy Cruz but got it used for around $200. We also got the adapter to use the stroller with the chicco carseat which was a great idea as this was our primary setup to start.

                      My wife has gotten really into babywearing and it is a great way to bond. We have 3 tulas and they are very comfortable. She also has a few ring slings and we have a lillebaby for facing out.

                      Agree with the recommendation on the dock-a-tot. It definitely helped with sleep in conjunction with the happiest baby swaddle. By far the best sleep swaddle we tried.

                      Bags can be tricky. We both got our own and I started with an ergobaby bag but didn't like it. I moved on to a timbuk2 messenger bag I had and that worked a lot better and just ordered a personalized bag from reload bags here in philly for christmas.

                      I've learned that you will never know what questions to ask until it's time to be a dad, so if any questions come up feel free to reach out. It's definitely been the most exciting thing i've ever done.
                      It seems that you have some experience with Uppababy. How do you like it? Would you recommend it?
                      I've been looking for a good infant car seat for a while now. My baby will arrive soon. After a few weeks I've shortlisted the uppababy mesa. Now this PHD thesis of mine called research has been super long. I've read a bunch of hype blog reviews and some horror stories from amazon. Finally I came across a blog that actually seems to use and test the car seats. Over here I've read a legit uppababy mesa review they actually mention negatives. I'm curious how did uppababy serve you. How easy is to install. Any tip is welcome

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